How to handle failure.
It could be discouraging when one experiences failure after anticipating success especially when compared with the level of efforts and work channeled into a particular project, dream or a cause. There's no man living or dead that has not at one time or the other experienced failure. Many has had their own lion share of the experiences of failures that even the world had given up on them completely but today are a global success story. No man has failed until he thinks he has. Failure in my own opinion can simply be best described as falling down in the course of a marathon race of life which you are the only athlete. No competitor! No rival!! And so because you experienced some few falls would not have made you loose the championship trophy since no man is competiting with you. You only loose the trophy when you refuse to continue in the race because of the temporal and few falls experienced. You see that you have not failed because someone said you're a failure. You have not failure because someone else thinks you are. And you have not also failed because you have nothing to show for all your years of toil. You simply have failed because you THINK, Believe and SAID you have!!! Abraham lincoln failed many atime, Henry Ford experienced many failures too. Many of those we see as an epitome of success today where "failures" yesterday. I said failures because they had them in quantum but was not deterred by them. I strongly believe that failure is a state of the mind. Once your mind tells you that you are a failure and you agree and stick to that frame of thought, and also confesses same, then you have really failed. I have failed over and over again in my life that i almost concluded that i was born a failure. I had also gone ahead to nurse the erroneous thought that probably i was born to watch others succeed in life. No man is born to failure, and no man is made or destined a failure. No man is made a failure by circumstances. No man is born to watch others succeed in life. Infact those you watch succeed had also had their 'fair share of the experiences of failure.' The difference between you and them is that they refused to give up. When you refuse to give up on life inspite of the 'terrible experiences' you've had, success would have no option than to smile on you. Do you know that the world is filled with men and women who were total failures yesterday, worse than what you're experiencing but today are celebrities and captains of industry. Majority today, the world never gave them a chance because of their background, but they fought their way to the top. Why do you think you can never make it again in life, what makes you think that the failures you've experienced for more than two decades can not be turned around to success? I can authoritatively tell you that the failures of today is a potential seed for success tomorrow. Please don't give up on your dreams or your pursuit in life. You have failed when you refuse to continue fighting. And to go further, i'd say, fight with the mind of a champion and not a looser. Pretend as if you've not encountered failure at all regardless of the number of times you've had them. Consciously think and talk like a champion always not minding the failures of the past. Let no man or circumstance steal your joy at anytime. Let no man talk you into believing you're a failure because you're never one. Believe in your heart strongly and confess the same that you are a success. In my local parlance it is said that "na condition make crayfish bend", meaning its the hot fire used in roasting the fish that makes it shrink. But i say, its not true. This same proverb has been a common excuse of "failures." I always put the word failures in quote because they think they're failures when they really not. So going back to the crayfish story, i say its not true that its the fire process that makes crayfish or the fish to bend because its not all the fish that went thru the fire that did shrink or bed, at least i have seen so many crayfish that didn't bend. I discover one very common habit or trait about those who think they've failed. They have very good and unconvincing EXCUSES for their failures. Failure start from the mind, Success too start from the mind. Be wary of the thoughts you entertain. If they don't encourage the fighting spirit in you, discard them. As you keep fighting your way to the top so keep praying, commiting your ways to the lord as if it all depends on prayers. Never forget you have not failed until you think you have.
04:10:19 am . 11 Oct 2012